Is that the same things that a man and a woman want from marriage?

There is absolutely no way to know. Most people who go into a marriage have no full, comprehensive, clear or sensible idea what they themselves really want from a marriage. And the list is enormous: companionship, love, sex, money, friendship, adventure, romance, a father, a mother, a brother, a sister, children, a crutch, a dependent, a slave, a master, control, someone to control, safety, danger, a challenge, comfort, pain, fun, understanding, sympathy, escape, freedom, oneness... who knows?

And like the saying goes: "Beware of what you want, for you just might get it." Ask around: see how many people marry someone for a specific trait and wind up, years later, hating that very same trait.

Here's the sad truth from divocerate.org:

According to enrichment journal on the divorce rate in America:
The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41%
The divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60%
The divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73%

And lots of them went into the marriage thinking they knew just what they wanted. But did they know what they really needed? And do needs change over time?

My advice: If you marry, marry for love, whatever that is to you, and strive to bring out the best in your mate. All the while, learn to compromise and be kind and keep a healthy sense of humor.